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Don't pray for me
I am not a religious person. There is something strange to me about people who turn their whole lives over to Him and wait for Him to tell them what His plan for their life is. How about taking some responsibility for yourself.
I am not naive enough to think that there is no "higher power" out there. There are too many unexplainable phenomenons and mysteries for me to believe that. I guess I would check the box
"spiritual but not religious" if forced to make a choice.
Where is all of this coming from? Recently I have been overwhelmed with the number of people who are bringing God into adoption just to suit their own wants. They are praying for a baby. Do they realize that they are praying for a mother to abandon their baby? It reminds me of stories I have heard about people who need organ transplants but struggle with the reality of it. In order for them to live they need someone else to die. How do you celebrate that. It's the same thing with adoption. In order for these people to get a baby, a mother, a father and their entire extended families have to lose a child and that child loses them. That child has to then grow up with biological and cultural strangers where nothing seems familiar and live in constant fear of being abandoned again.
Adoption is not a blessing. It is a business. Women, young, poor, unmarried, you name it are taken advantage of. They are told that they are not capable of taking care of a baby and that they should do the right thing, the unselfish thing and give up their babies. They are told to think of all of the people out there who can't have children, they deserve a child. Do it because you love them people say. How does this make sense? It doesn't. Do you know how confusing it is to be told that "your mother gave you up because she loved you and wanted you to have a better life"? I grew up waiting for others people I loved to abandon me because that's apparently what you do when you love someone and want them to be happy.
The bottom line is that agencies make money off of these women. For some reason people feel that they are entitled to have a baby and it doesn't matter who gets hurt in the process. Having a baby isn't a right. If you are infertile and can't have children I feel bad for you, I really do. But adoption is not a cure for in fertility. You don't deserve a child anymore than someone deserves to lose one.
Don't tell me God wants you to have a child. If he did, why are you infertile? God doesn't put babies in the "wrong bellies". Society makes that decision. If you truly want to fulfill His will, why don't you volunteer or donate money to a teen pregnancy program. Help babies stay with their mothers, the mother God intended for them.
I am not naive enough to think that there is no "higher power" out there. There are too many unexplainable phenomenons and mysteries for me to believe that. I guess I would check the box
"spiritual but not religious" if forced to make a choice.
Where is all of this coming from? Recently I have been overwhelmed with the number of people who are bringing God into adoption just to suit their own wants. They are praying for a baby. Do they realize that they are praying for a mother to abandon their baby? It reminds me of stories I have heard about people who need organ transplants but struggle with the reality of it. In order for them to live they need someone else to die. How do you celebrate that. It's the same thing with adoption. In order for these people to get a baby, a mother, a father and their entire extended families have to lose a child and that child loses them. That child has to then grow up with biological and cultural strangers where nothing seems familiar and live in constant fear of being abandoned again.
Adoption is not a blessing. It is a business. Women, young, poor, unmarried, you name it are taken advantage of. They are told that they are not capable of taking care of a baby and that they should do the right thing, the unselfish thing and give up their babies. They are told to think of all of the people out there who can't have children, they deserve a child. Do it because you love them people say. How does this make sense? It doesn't. Do you know how confusing it is to be told that "your mother gave you up because she loved you and wanted you to have a better life"? I grew up waiting for others people I loved to abandon me because that's apparently what you do when you love someone and want them to be happy.
The bottom line is that agencies make money off of these women. For some reason people feel that they are entitled to have a baby and it doesn't matter who gets hurt in the process. Having a baby isn't a right. If you are infertile and can't have children I feel bad for you, I really do. But adoption is not a cure for in fertility. You don't deserve a child anymore than someone deserves to lose one.
Don't tell me God wants you to have a child. If he did, why are you infertile? God doesn't put babies in the "wrong bellies". Society makes that decision. If you truly want to fulfill His will, why don't you volunteer or donate money to a teen pregnancy program. Help babies stay with their mothers, the mother God intended for them.
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